SELF-ESTEEM + SELF-ACCEPTANCE!

MARK TWAIN: SELF-ACCEPTANCE!

2012-02-06T14:47:00.000-08:00

JESSICA COX - WITHOUT ARMS?!?!

2011-12-15T07:49:00.000-08:00

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---Self-Acceptance Personified

Creature Comforts Self Image

2011-11-29T06:25:00.000-08:00

---Watch whole YouTube. Enjoyable! Listening to the audio makes one realize more and more at how everyone has something that they are dealing with. I hope that you find something that sheds light on something about yourself that frees you from something that you are dealing with...and you realize that what you are self-conscious about is only as important as you let it be.

SELF - LOVE and BEING AUTHENTIC!

2011-11-19T17:17:00.000-08:00

What she is saying is very true. I hope you are not put off by her high energy. Her message of being yourself is very right-on.

Self-ACCEPTANCE - ''The ROAD to HAPPINESS''

2011-11-10T11:13:00.000-08:00

My own YouTube.

''An Unexpected Surprise'' - The ''STROKE'' GUY

2011-08-27T21:45:00.000-07:00

---Thanks, Harry!

Sunday Morning Sunshine - Harry Chapin

2011-08-23T23:08:00.000-07:00

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---This is the song that captured how I felt about the realization that it is okay to be myself. The whole song fits in so many ways. The line ''it's funny how a city can put on a different face when it holds the one you care for - it becomes a different place,'' spoke droves to me when what I realized is that the one I now cared for was the ''me'' that I had NOT cared for to any great degree...before.

---I felt I was ''good enough.'' I realized the missing fingers were NO longer the problem that they once were. The CURSE had become a BLESSING.

---The Sunday Morning Sunshine is LOVE and ACCEPTANCE itself, in whatever form that comes wrapped for you.

---Thanks, Harry.

An AWAKENING - The ''STROKE'' GUY

2011-08-20T21:47:00.000-07:00

SELF-ACCEPTANCE MAKES US FREE!

2011-07-28T10:18:00.000-07:00

A Simple Melody Of Inspirations & Quotes

2011-06-28T06:11:00.000-07:00

selfhelp4growth.blogspot.com
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---Whatever may get you there and allows you to be free from the shackles of non-acceptance and the thought that you may NOT be ''good enough.''

SELF-ESTEEM

2011-06-19T10:25:00.000-07:00

---Under the Heading . ''Wouldn't it be easier to accept the fact that there are people out there who are better looking, smarter, healthier and happier than you.''

---As it is said, ''the truth shall make you free.''

Girl play piano with no finger on one hand

2011-05-31T05:21:00.000-07:00

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---Another person acheiving against the odds. I want to mention. here, that a victory is a victory. You do NOT have to be a star of sorts to make gains. My going to the store in a tee shirt at age 20 could have been as difficult for me as playing piano on stage in the video. It is all relative. What one learns from the experience is far more important and bears the fruit that is necessary to lead a fulfilled life. Be good to yourself but don't be afraid to take risks, also. Paul.

SELF-ESTEEM INCREASE

2011-05-23T09:17:00.000-07:00

---Superficial changes do work...but, more often than not they usually sport a look of unreality. There is nothing better than accepting that which you have been given. That is easy for me to say not being faced with a whole lot of cosmetic things at present. If one can go the natural way, I highly recommend it. It seems that if you bring something artificial into the mix...it ends up being just that - artificial!

TOUGHNESS

2011-05-16T17:56:00.000-07:00

Helping Others is GOOD For Our Self-Esteem

2011-05-13T23:32:00.000-07:00

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---Teamwork

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

2011-05-08T07:48:00.000-07:00

A GOOD FORMULA -

2011-04-17T14:40:00.000-07:00

Self-Acceptance from a CARTOON!??!

2011-04-16T23:21:00.000-07:00

Gluko & Lennon ENG from Gluko & Lennon on Vimeo.
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---By interacting HONESTLY with one another...we find OURSELVES.

EXPLORE DISCOMFORTS

2011-04-15T19:09:00.000-07:00

---This seems like a harsh statement that I would like to clarify. People, in US society, tend to medicate for everything. They, as a rule, NEVER get to the bottom of why things ail them. They tend to take Tylenol, (for example,) at the drop of a hat and just don't explore any reasons why the discomfort exists. At least not to a great extent. I think our discomforts have much to teach us...if we learn to listen to them. Medication can be a way of running...NOT exposing the source of the problem - to deal with it and be done with it.

''If You MUST Medicate -

Medicate Wisely!''

NAMI ARTICLE - W/Mistakes

2011-04-12T08:50:00.000-07:00

10 yr. old without hands wins penmanship award

2011-04-11T09:32:00.000-07:00

Penmanship Award Goes To

10 year-old Without Hands

---Nicholas Maxim won an award for penmanship. What makes this story noteworthy is that Nicholas was born without hands or lower arms.

----His mother is amazed at the determination Nicholas shows in all he does. ‘’He has a very high work ethic.’’

---In typical fashion, the 10 year old doesn’t see what all the hoopla is about. To him he just entered a contest.

---If his prime concern was how he looked to other people, he may have a whole different ''take'' on the situation. He seems very well adjusted and handles his situation well. It seems as if he accepted life as it is...instead of trying to make a lot of unnecessary changes.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM!

2011-04-09T16:39:00.000-07:00

CARL SAGAN - PERSPECTIVES!

2011-04-02T21:05:00.000-07:00

Top 10 Abraham Maslow - Self Actualization Quotes

2011-03-04T12:04:00.000-08:00

Top 10 Abraham Maslow Quotes - Self Actualization Quotes - Bing Videos - CLICK

NO PAIN/ NO GAIN!

2011-02-28T14:38:00.000-08:00

---It is okay to take risks and feel uncomfortable, at times. You have, probably, spent many years running and hiding from experiencing any kind of discomfort. The more one accepts discomfort, it helps to build a thicker skin and de-sensitize one to the realities of life. One becomes more able to experience life as it is and doesn't need everyone to walk on eggshells around him to preserve some kind of pretend lifestyle. One becomes stronger as he goes along and his threshhold for discomforts rises to include the ability to withstand greater realities of living. One is able to face life as it is, with greater ease.

BE HUMAN/GOOD TASTE - SAVE FACE or NOT?

2011-02-26T15:01:00.000-08:00

CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS...

2011-02-20T09:24:00.000-08:00

IN A NUTSHELL!

2011-02-17T14:48:00.001-08:00

APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE...NOT WHAT YOU DON'T!

2011-02-12T20:32:00.000-08:00

Stevie Wonder - As

2011-02-09T23:17:00.000-08:00

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---This song has meant a lot over the years. I remember driving my green Ford Maverick around listening to a cassette of Stevie Wonder's whole album. I heard this song after I had the Life Changing event that I speak of. It certainly cemented what I had experienced. I understood unequivocally that Life at it's Best...ALL comes down to LOVE. Everyone is a part of that LOVE, whether you want to be...or NOT.

GET YOUR DUCKS IN A ROW!

2011-02-09T09:50:00.000-08:00

Ducks in a row

---I find I do better when things go according to plan. Don't get me wrong. I still think it is important to be flexible and to roll with the punches, but I find that I respond more efficiently when there exists some kind of structure. There can be a certain amount of chaos going on, but I do find that I do want my ducks in a row...if possible.

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A FRIEND LISTENS...and HEARS!

2011-02-06T09:49:00.000-08:00

SELF EXPRESSION

2011-02-02T07:14:00.000-08:00

CREATIVE SELF-EXPRESSION

---It is important to get your ''music'' from the inside, to come out. It is to be shared. As a matter of fact, it really isn't ''music'' until it is shared. Our music comes out the most when we are being ourselves. Being creative hinges completely on self-expression.

---We ALL have ''IT'' all, within ourselves. Some of us travel many miles to end up in the Heart. It can be a short trip or a long journey. It depends on ''where one is at,'' when he starts. Expressing what is to be expressed, seems the key. Whatever opens the door.

---To be at this point of self-expression, one must begin by making the ''Supreme'' sacrifice and ''Express Yourself.'' All one has to do is to start telling himself the Truth. It begins with yourself. If you start telling yourself how you ''feel,'' you have taken the first step. It ALL begins there. Eventually, you acquire the ''habit'' of telling the Truth, and the process gets easier and easier. If this is all new to you, remember that it is a process, so it may take some time.

---What is in there is the ''good'' stuff. You may start with the junk at first, but as they say, ''We have to go through Hell, before we get to Heaven.'' If you have never told yourself the truth, than it is more difficult. Be Fearless. Start with facing up to how you really ''feel'' about things, because this is telling the truth to yourself. I ''guarantee'' that you will be unravelling the mysteries of the self, yourself, and the universe, eventually, no matter how ''stupid'' or ''trivial'' it may sound at first. You open the ''Doors of Perception.'' You will eventually ''Find Your Own Voice.'' You will understand, maybe for the first time, and no longer see, ''through the glass, darkly.'' Things will begin to make sense. Be Well.

SELF-RESPECT

2011-01-30T10:38:00.000-08:00

INNER/OUTER

2011-01-27T09:46:00.000-08:00

DEALING WITH OTHERS!

2011-01-26T14:21:00.000-08:00

LACKING SELF-ESTEEM

2011-01-25T12:32:00.000-08:00

ACCOMPLISHMENT!

2011-01-23T16:03:00.001-08:00

SELF - ACCEPTANCE: DARKNESS to LIGHT w/Mark Twain

2011-01-20T21:13:00.000-08:00

The ''LEFT-HAND''
ACCEPTANCE -

---To state more clearly and to answer why this particular essay is so important in my own life and why I think it is important to ALL of us. It is an example in my own experience of how one goes from the darkness into the light. Well placed Affirmation along the way gave me what I needed to continue.
---I was born with my left-hand missing four fingers. The stages I went through toward Acceptance are very much the same as Kubler-Ross' stages of accepting situations in our lives. She, herself, came upon these as she was looking into how we grieve.

---DENIAL - Keeping my hand in my pocket and not letting others or anyone see or experience the real me. It seemed easier, but I wasn't being honest with myself and that is very important.

---ANGER - Came about in the form that I should be able to show my hand, but I just couldn't.

---BARGAINING - ''If God will grow my fingers than...'' I became a bit irrational at times because it would keep me from having to face the reality of having the missing fingers. This stage taught me much as I could see that I had some growing and learning to do. My ideas of God greatly matured here.

---DESPAIR - Realized that there was ''nothing'' I could do to change my situation-except Change My Attitude. Growth was happening, Acceptance was taking place, but I felt very helpless. I needed to trust that it was okay to be me. I had to ''Let go'' of the way I thought IT was supposed to be, and actually get on with things. It was one of the most painful situations I ever had to face, but it carried great rewards with it. I was closer to being the person I was born to be.

---A word to the wise in all of this. It is a PROCESS and one will HAVE to allow some time to embody what is going on with oneself. Take it slow and don't try to force anything. It is a natural growth process so all we have to do is just be honest with ourselves each step of the journey we are on. We will grow ''into'' whatever we are to gain from all this. Be good to yourself and keep it simple.

---ACCEPTANCE - ''Gradually'' you find yourself NOT hiding your hand, or whatever it might be, in your pocket or anywhere else for that matter. In fact, your attitude can turn so much that you forget that at one time it was even an issue. It is the process where suddenly you can see that which you thought to be a Curse, is really a Blessing. Be Well.

SELF IMAGE

2011-01-19T20:28:00.000-08:00

NAKEDness - a NEW Wrinkle

2011-01-19T10:50:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS....

NAKEDness - A New Wrinkle.
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''COMMUNICATION, RELATIONSHIP and The OFFSPRING''

---We all know how babies are born, don't we? A man and a woman ''get'' together and produce a third-a baby, a child, an offspring, etc. This works the same way in all of Nature. This is the NO THRILLS, NO FRILLS approach. This is the 'Classic'' way that we have populated the planet. Two combine to make a third. We have many words for this togetherness, some I can print here, some I can't. But we do know that this is how sex works.

---Two combine to make a Third. This is the dynamic I want to speak about. Do you know that this occurs all the time, for everyone? Whenever someone communicates with someone else they produce a Third, an Offspring. This Third is their Relationship, their ''Child.'' This ''Child'' has to be nurtured in about the same way, also, to reach its fullest potential. It does not matter what gender, what species, what you look like, who you are etc., this is the Way it is. Two beget a Third, when communication exists, even if one is not good at it. This is the idea behind ''Celibacy.'' One uses the 'Life Force' in this way, instead of the sexual response we are more used to.
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COMMUNICATION is the CORNERSTONE of all RELATIONSHIP
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---If you have a relationship with the Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker, it still works the same. It could be a dog ar a cat. Anything. It works the same. When Two communicate...they produce this Third, the Relationship.

---So, it seems it is about Communication. Then, where is all this Nakedness we've been promised? It comes in the form of Honest Communication. It can be sometimes very difficult to be Naked in this way.
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LOVE is the GREAT UNIFIER!
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---Now the kicker-The more we tell the Truth and the more Honest the communication we have, then the more Naked we are.There is a lot of strength in this kind of vulnerability. The Relationship then tends more to this thing called Love, which is The Great Unifier. Love brings Everything together. In this way we can see that the Three [The two who Communicate and their Relationship] have become One, and that Communication is at the Heart of the matter. Does this sound familiar? It also holds the makings of a 'Family.' Part 1.

What is HONESTY?

2011-01-19T10:01:00.000-08:00

---We all strive to be that honest and transparent. But, each in his own time. It is a process. You are doing NOBODY (and that includes yourself), a favor going from step A to step Z faster than your own pace. NAKEDness for you may mean just being honest. Take BABYSTEPS! It's okay.

Part II - NAKEDness - a NEW Wrinkle

2011-01-19T08:02:00.000-08:00

NAKEDness - A New Wrinkle.
PART II
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COMMUNICATION, RELATIONSHIP and The OFFSPRING

---To start this process, where do we begin? Well, as with everything, it starts with Yourself. Begin by telling the truth to Yourself. This is not as easy as it sounds. We fool ourselves in many ways. Somehow being right, winning, or looking good, takes the place of being Honest, even with Ourselves. The old self-image problem again. When we toss and turn, are not sleeping, have pangs of conscience etc., it is usually an Honesty issue. If we begin by telling the truth to ourselves, about how we really feel, we begin the process.

---Remember, being honest does not mean we attack people with our ''Honesty.'' Tact and diplomacy always fits in there somewhere.
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We DEVELOPE through TRIAL and ERROR
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---The reason we avoid telling ourselves the truth is because we avoid Knowing ourselves. We think that if someone, or even ourselves, knows the truth about us, they wouldn't like us or some variation of this theme. Sometimes we compensate by going the other direction and ''think'' we're better than others. This couldn't be further from the Truth. We are ALL Equal. We ALL have flaws. We are ALL working on this in a personal way. Loving and accepting ourselves as we are, is not the easiest thing that we do, but this is how we Learn and Perfect. We develope through trial and error.

---Don't worry so much about being right, but just be honest with Yourself. You will find that being right and being honest becomes the SAME thing, eventually. You will feel better and be better. Remember, telling the truth becomes a habit like any other, but it is one of the good habits to acquire. Be well.

''Some People Need Approval'' - Sly Stewart

2011-01-16T15:50:00.000-08:00

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---From the WOODSTOCK movie. Some people need permission to be themself.

DECISION MAKING SKILLS INCREASE SELF ESTEEM

2011-01-15T21:02:00.000-08:00

How Decision Making Can
Increase Self Esteem

---Learning to make decisions is good for your self-esteem. It let’s you become comfortable with making mistakes and being playful. These are two qualities being realized by the experts as being good qualities to have.
---Good decision making takes practice for most. Very few people immediately make all the right decisions, all the time. Some don’t admit to mistakes very readily. I hope for their own benefit and those around them that they soon learn NOT to take themselves so seriously and to lighten-up a bit.
---A good decision hopefully yields beneficial results to all and hurts no one in the process. It gives the opportunity to learn the whys and wherefores of trial + error and see how to tweak your process to become better as one grows in it. These are ALL big pluses in the field of self esteem.
---The final outcome of all this is a healthier individual who is much easier to engage and to deal with and is not afraid to be part of life. It seems that anyone able to consistently make good decisions has a pretty good handle on himself and life itself. Take care.

Importance of Decision Making

2011-01-15T07:46:00.000-08:00

Learn it is OKAY to Make Mistakes
Increases One's self awareness and self esteem by learning to work with trial and error
Learn to lighten-up and NOT take oneself so seriously
A wonderful way to find out about yourself and the way you work. You discover yourself through this process.

SUFFERING and SAVING FACE

2011-01-11T07:02:00.000-08:00

Our TOUGHNESS Comes From Facing Our Vulnerabilities. When We Save Face, We Are Usually Avoiding SOMETHING Important. We Postpone Facing Ourselves. One Will, Eventually, Face Oneself.

''A Need We ALL Share...Believe Me''

2011-01-04T22:32:00.000-08:00

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---The greater our self knowledge makes us more equipped to help ourselves...as well as others.

SELF-ESTEEM and SELF-ACCEPTANCE

2011-01-02T21:03:00.000-08:00

SELF-ESTEEM - A Confidence and Satisfaction in Oneself
SELF-ACCEPTANCE - To Accept Oneself AS YOU ARE

On BEING YOURSELF

2011-01-02T15:54:00.000-08:00

''You Are Probably NOT Spiderman.''
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---Whenever I say, ''Be Yourself,'' I find myself wondering if people know what I mean by that. I hope that it is understood that I am NOT saying, anything goes and nothing matters. Do anything you feel like doing...etc. That is NOT what it means - To Be Yourself.
---I am saying - find out who you, yourself, are, and be that person. And that it is okay. You usually find who you are, by going within. It begins by telling yourself the truth about how you feel about things, and blossoms or unravels or grows, from there. It is what I mean when I say, ''You watch yourself UNFOLD, from within.''
It is growth in the understanding of what ''LOVE,'' means. Your - TRUE - Self, is LOVE. Be Well and Be Loving.

IMPORTANCE of SELF-ACCEPTANCE on YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

2011-01-02T08:39:00.000-08:00

Importance of self-acceptance on your mental health WITHOUT MISTAKES.

''There is nothing either good or bad, but it is thinking that makes it so.'' Shakespeare
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---Acceptance plays a big role in our lives as we line up our needs and preferences. Self acceptance is a huge key to our personal happiness. What follows is my own story.
---I was born missing four fingers on my left-hand. There is, basically, a thumb, there. I spent a lot of time hiding my hand, being afraid that if people knew the real me, it wouldn’t be ‘’good enough.’’ Somehow, I thought that a false version of me would be better. I was very much mistaken.
---I hid my hand from practically everyone. I was very good at it. But…what I’m really saying is that I was very good at NOT being myself. I ended up in the mental health system due to antics related to this idea. I was hospitalized. I was placed in a mental hospital…really, all due to thinking it was NOT good enough to be me.
---At one point, I believed that healing would come in the form of growing fingers…in some way. I thought that healing would be in making me look like everyone else. Once, again, I was incorrect. Healing is ACCEPTING YOURSELF AS YOU ARE. It really doesn’t happen any other way. ---What one has in common with others is the fact that everyone has something that they would RATHER NOT HAVE…and, are hence, dealing with. People learn their life lessons in dealing with its acceptance.
---There was a change in my attitude. Instead of thinking I would benefit from being something or someone, else, I realized that the best that I can be is to be myself. But, that, then, just opens the door.
---I next realized that it is important to find out what that means. It doesn’t mean that you suddenly do whatever you want and forget everyone else. It becomes a journey of self-discovery…uncovering what it all means. You are able to watch yourself unravel, sloughing off those unnecessary things we all seem to carry - to hide from being ourselves. (I remember hiding my hand from a blind man). What I once saw as a great curse is now a great blessing. ACCEPTANCE is the key.
---I believe that mental hospitals are filled with people who have NOT accepted themselves. They are filled with people who think that if you really got to know them or if you even cared enough to get know them…you would be very disappointed in the findings. They have NO value and NO worth. They are mistakes…in someway. This misconception and ignorance has been handed down, through the generations, since time began.
---If you are still not convinced, the challenge would be this - Try it. Try accepting yourself as you REALLY are. Remember that the longer you resist the truth, the more it will persist…AS A PROBLEM. Even if it is just being honest with yourself about one thing about yourself…that is a good place to start. Take Care!
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---This story appeared in the NAMI (national alliance of mental illness)
publication of VOICES.

EMPOWERMENT

2011-01-01T06:30:00.000-08:00

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---A Great Video

Increase SELF ESTEEM

2011-01-01T06:14:00.000-08:00

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

2010-12-24T06:01:00.000-08:00

SELF-ESTEEM

2010-12-22T22:07:00.000-08:00

Self-Esteem

---Self-esteem seems to be one of the big ones that we deal with. When we feel good about ourselves we reflect that in all that we do. Our needs and preferences are definitely more realistic.
---Self esteem goes hand-in-hand with self-acceptance. The more we find our self esteem to be, the more acceptable we will be to ourself and others. If you find this difficult at first, don’t lose heart. It becomes easier as the esteem kicks in and increases.
---The question would be this…how to increase our self-esteem? Self esteem increases when we feel good about ourself. It basically hinges itself on that. The deal breaker is if one feels himself to be good enough or not. It is important to be honest on this point. Any non-realness in here, will wreek havoc down the line.
---As a side note to this: I was talking to a doctor of sociology who mentioned that people should feel that they are wonderful, fabulous, etc., and so on. My feeling is that folks tend to get lost in these words without an appropriate feeling to support it, and then they are just words they are using. You are never really sure where they stand on the good enough issue. So, I stand firm on self esteem. The deal breaker is one if the person really KNOWS that he is ‘’good enough,’’ or is still struggling with this. When being good enough is firmly in place, then proceeding is a very natural thing.

TURNS A CURSE INTO A BLESSING!

2010-12-03T08:00:00.000-08:00

STACEY KRAMER - The Gift That Profoundly Altered Her Life

2010-12-03T07:42:00.000-08:00

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST...But, Winning and/or Losing ARE NOT EVERYTHING!

2010-11-20T16:52:00.001-08:00

---It REALLY Isn't WINNING or LOSING! When one feels that he is defined by his won/loss record, he tends to miss the joys that life can have. Lighten-up and learn what is on the poster. It easlily translates into everyday fulfillments. If you are concerned with winning all-the-time, you will be very lonely, ULTIMATELY.

FINDING OUR OWN VOICE!

2010-11-20T14:01:00.000-08:00

RELATIONSHIP: The THEORY

2010-11-20T12:12:00.000-08:00

''We ALL Have ONE of THESE!''

2010-11-13T11:42:00.000-08:00

''We ALL Have ONE of THESE''

---The point is that we ALL have something we would rather not have. We are all saddled with something that we are dealing with. I have heard it being called ‘’one’s cross to bear,’’ among other things.
---Whatever we call it, there is a time that we go through being very sure that without this ‘’THING’’ we would do a whole lot better. I know that I went through this with my hand. I was really convinced that without my hand I’d be ‘’something else.’’ Take that any way you want.
---I would like to point out the fantasy in this. The fantasy is this - I thought that I would be better NOT having this defect, when ALL THE TIME it contained all I would ever need to live and live affectively. The very thing I was trying to avoid…contained the very things I was looking for. That is, usually, the case.
---And, just to bring it to a reality - the learning is in how to deal with being born like this and living with my hand as it is. Society is saying that life is another way then you obviously are. We all have something that falls into this category and ‘’we would rather not have - that is, UNTIL WE LEARN TO HAVE IT.’’
---We learn to incorporate ourselves into the land of the living, but are now very equipped to do battle on many fields that others can still find tentative. I, guess, that it is my way of saying ‘’whatever doesn’t kill you, serves to make you stronger.’’

CONSEQUENCES: NOT BEING HEARD + TAKEN SERIOUSLY!

2010-11-13T09:00:00.000-08:00

MARIE CURIE

2010-11-12T19:40:00.000-08:00

SELF-ACCEPTANCE: TO SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE!

2010-11-12T19:37:00.000-08:00

OUR BIGGEST FLAW! - oldie/goodie

2010-11-12T06:30:00.000-08:00

It Is GOOD To Be YOURSELF!

2010-08-22T15:40:00.000-07:00

BE WHO YOU ARE -
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I SAY YES TO DIFFERENCES IN ALL OF US
I SEE THAT WE'RE MADE MUCH THE SAME
BUT IT'S THE DIFFERENCES THAT SPICE IT UP.
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SOME PEOPLE ARE SUBTLE,
SOME ARE MORE OVERT
BUT THERE'S SOMETHING IN EVERYBODY
AND THE WAY THEY DEMONSTRATE
WHO THEY ARE

THE ENTIRE PICTURE IS IN ALL OF US
WHO WE ARE IS IMPORTANT --
LIKE IN A JIGSAW PUZZLE,
THE PIECE YOU PLAY IS YOURSELF

BE YOURSELF AND DON'T COMPROMISE
AND YOU'LL FIND OUT SOON ENOUGH
THAT THE ONE YOU SEEK IS YOUR TRUE SELF
SO, HAVE FUN, WHEN IT'S THERE

ART FORD - JAZZ PARTY

2010-07-15T23:04:00.000-07:00

http://www.archive.org/details/ArtFordsjazzParty1958
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---Art Ford and his Jazz Party. Their are other video's than the one's posted. A very good diversion from the rest of website.

NO GREATER VALENTINE...''THE GIFT OF THE SELF''

2010-02-14T04:38:00.000-08:00

My BOOK

2007-07-22T16:42:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THESE...
''Self-Acceptance, IS One Of My Struggles''

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---Well, I finally had an opportunity to put some of my ''writings,'' into some sort of book. This has been a dream of mine, since the 60's. It is NOT that I haven't tried and aborted many attempts. But, for some reason, it just never has come together, as it has now.
---CONSIDER THESE..., contains about 25 entries of my essays and poems. Some of the material is NOT on my blogs. There are a few pictures, also. The whole book is very short - only 46 pages.
---I have been writing all my life. My first, was, basically, ''The Adventures Of Bob Lund.'' It was 62 pages, and typed by my Cousin Linda T. There was one copy and I think there was a price and all. 60 cents. It wasn't very good, but when we were bored, my friend Hempty would drag it out and read it aloud. I wrote the book at age 8, and was listening at age 26. The loudest laughter may have come from me.
---A strange aside to this is that I had met someone named Bob Lund, who came to see the Bobby Darling Show, quite frequently, back in the late 70's. Bob's girlfriend, at the time, was very interested in reading the book. I remember being on stage at The Blue Max, and her being in the audience, reading in earnest. It seemed as though she thought that she was going to discover something about real Bob Lund. It would have been funny if she had.
---Back to CONSIDER THESE.... If I meet someone with this name, I, myself, will begin to wonder...and read in earnest. The main focus is around the fact that it really is OKAY to BE YOURSELF. The reason I say this is because, being born missing four fingers on my left-hand, I found myself almost forced into realizing this fact. But, what a great blessing it was, when I finally did.
---I have met many people who are trying to be someone they're not. Most people aren't even aware of this. I know I wasn't. We ALL have what we need inside, but are so busy looking outside, that we don't see this. Stop competing and comparing. Learn what Love, really means, as a fact. Stop focusing on if you feel loved or not. You will stumble across it. Guaranteed. It is in there. Take Care.

My Book Is Available On Lulu.com

The KIM J. Version -

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---Though, Hempty may still like, ''The ADVENTURES Of Bob Lund,'' better. It would be a toss-up. Here are some of the nice things, Kim J. said: (Photo Of Kim J.)

''What A Beautiful Book You Have Made. The Written Material, The Photos And The Cover Are Well-Chosen. Nicely Done.''

(Kim J. Is The TAI-CHI Instructor At The Hospital.)

Kim J. Story, As It Appeared In Hospital Newsletter -

http://www.mediafire.com/?cyhcidjxyan

A ''LEFT - HANDED'' Compliment

2007-07-22T14:20:00.000-07:00

Paul C., Says -

(About Book)

---Everyday at 3:30 Paul H. stops by my office on his way to exercise in the therapy gym. We typically chat about the day's events or other commonalities. We've both recently been in the market for a computer and we've been sharing opinions about the different possibilities. On Tuesday of last week, Paul wheeled into my office and handed me a book. Actually I can't say he handed it to me because he doesn't have a hand on one side and is so tremulous with the other hand that he can't hold things without dropping them. I'd never asked Paul why he didn't have a hand and the subject never came up in conversation, but when he gave me the book it brought back memories of another friend of mine.

---Several years earlier, when I first started working at the hospital, I was carpooling with a group of other hospital employees. Being new to the city and the hospital, I as anxious to find friendships and the carpool seemed a good way to get to know some of the folks I worked with. As it happened, one of the members of the carpool was missing a hand in almost the same fashion as Paul. In my eagerness to get to know the group I nonchalantly asked Nancy what had happened to her hand. During the next 45 minutes she explained the whole story of getting her hand caught in a leaf cutter and all of the details of the ensuing physical and emotional trauma. By the end of the ride she was crying with the telling. She apologized for her emotion, telling us that she hadn't actually told the story in many years and was surprised herself by her reaction. This surprised me because the other carpool members had been riding with Nancy for over 5 years. I asked one of them later if anyone knew Nancy's story, but no one had thought to ask. That morning ride was a defining moment in the group and helped to solidify some relationships that I carry to this day.

---Paul gave me the book and excused himself from my office with only a brief comment that he hoped the book would be useful. Ironically, in the first chapter Paul tells the story of his hand. He said that most people assumed that he had lost his hand in an accident, but the truth was he was born without it. He tells of a painful childhood where he made great efforts to hide his hand by sticking it deep in his pocket, even among people that knew he didn't have the hand. He goes on to talk of how he gradually embraced his loss by forcing himself to keep the limb out in the open. While I was reading the story it occurred to me how I had been hiding some of my own missing parts and how there might just be value in bringing those into the open. In other words, the telling of Paul's story touched my life in a deeply personal way.

---In the carpool I had thought to ask the question of how Nancy had lost her hand and that ultimately led to a deeper relationship with her and the others in the group. Paul's story had a similarly compelling effect, but I could have gotten there sooner had I thought to ask. We talk about patient centered care from the perspective of trying to make a home like environment, or scheduling things according to our patient's needs, but we seldom take the time to ask and we don't expect to be changed ourselves. It's in the asking that not only gives us the appropriate perspective but can ultimately lead to fundamental changes in who we are as individuals.

Paul C., is a MPT, GCS. He is, also, Rehabilitation Coordinator. More on our relationship on - At The HOSPITAL...blog. Thanks, Paul C.

Mike N...Says -

2007-07-22T13:01:00.000-07:00

Mike N...Says -

---''On my desk, I keep certain things that are especially emotionally and spiritually meaningful to me. One Of Them, Now, Is CONSIDER THESE...''

---''It Is A Witness To The Strength of Spirit and Resilience of the Heart.''

(The Above Was On NOTECARD)

I have known Mike, for many years.

CHLOE, His...CAT

2007-07-22T12:23:00.000-07:00

---''I Wasn't Impressed, But The BOOK May Be The ''NEW'' Cat Box Liner, I've Been Looking...For.''

WILLIAM S...e-mails

2007-07-22T09:06:00.000-07:00

To Be YOURSELF,

Or Not To Be YOURSELF.

---''You Call This...WRITING??''

Little Paul...Says

2007-07-22T08:06:00.000-07:00

---''Am I Gonna Write That...Book? Is That A Kitty Above Billy...Shakespeare?''

Henny Youngman -

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---''CONSIDER THESE...PLEASE!!''

Leonardo Da Vinci -

2007-07-21T21:04:00.000-07:00

---''Code? What Code? Do You, Actually, Think I Read His...BOOK??''

Paul Defends...BOOK

2007-07-21T20:11:00.000-07:00

---''You're Taking Pot-Shots At Me, Now. I Felt Like ''BINGO'' Long. I Was Under Time Constraints. This Is The BEST I Could Do. CONSIDER THAT...PLEASE.''

Perry Mason...Responds

2007-07-21T19:30:00.000-07:00

---''A Very Weak Defense...Paul.''